Simplicity Bliss
November 16th, 2005 -- Posted in people | 4 Comments »Having read Clapbangkiss’s blog posts for the past week, it suddenly dawned to me how lucky I am. When I’m seeing netizens evolving into bloggers telling dramtic episodes of their everyday life, I was at first wondering if I’m on the wrong planet. With so much scandals and gossips circulating around ordinary netizens these days (a phenonmenon only occuring to entertainers and politicians in the past), I was almost convinced that I’m the only one left in this world who does not have such drama to tell…
... Then it hit me. Why should I even bother to wonder? True to Dawn’s words ”... as if we don’t have enough drama in our daily lives”, we do have our own personal drama of various scales. There are those who live a life full of stories to tell everyday, while there are others (like myself) who have little to share when the usual catching-up “How’s life?” question comes up. Broken marriages, infidelity, bankruptcy etc. aren’t exactly fictional and aren’t popularly used as elements for good TV soup operas anymore. They are so common these days at our urban pace of life here in Singapore that stories told in movies and paperbacks are moving towards the next school of ‘extraordinary stories’ compared to those our parents used to read.
I’m leading a very simple life. And I should be glad of this. With a boring but stable job, a happy marriage, a variety of constructive hobbies and last but not least a peaceful family, what is there to complain about? Absolutely nothing! Sure there are worries about future and financial needs, but who doesn’t have these?
Bottomline of these is simply what an individual aspire to achieve in his/her life. The more sophistications one wants to live with, the more complications one should expect. The limelight game of popularity is not a simple path. With more people knowing about your existence and your life, there will definitely be more comments, good or bad, about your personality. The term “friends” has such a wide scope of definitions these days. Other than referring to those who are true friends who care, it is also so conveniently used to refer those ‘associates’ whom one had known only recently, or ‘hi-bye’ friends whom one hardly knows very much about. It’s just a matter of time before negative comments come to you from some of these so-called ‘friends’.
Putting the popularity game aside, ‘having fun’ is also another term used as an excuse for troubles many created for themselves. Catching up with true friends is naturally a way of ‘having fun’, be it hanging out over coffee, or going crazy together at parties. However, admitting it or not, there seem to be many who have a second motive when hanging out to have fun with ‘friends’: to be seen/heard with so-and-so. The objective of this motive is to know people who knows many people, or to give the impression that you do. That way, the attention-seeking motive is achieved.
So that comes back to the simple million-dollars question: What is your aspiration in life? Do you get satisfaction and your sense of achievement from being popular, or rather, being constructive? Dawn… or anyone reading this, you might feel that I’m directly being an antagonist to your lifestyle… I’m not. I’m just speaking in general of what I’ve observed, seen and heard. I have nothing against anyone, and I am not judging. I might not understand your innermost personality, but that’s how others like myself perceive your plight. Rumors out of jealousy or not, there has to be a reason why such rumors are started or jealousy provoked.
I think I’m digressing…
As I mentioned, I recently realized that I’m leading a simple life, and I should be happy about it. I’m free of all the dramatic complications in my life. I don’t have disturbing rumors about me. Though it can be boring sometimes, I think I’d rather forgo the fun part of being popular just to stay peaceful.
