Preview to Mid-Life Crisis or Resurfaced Adolescence?
I’m not sure why I thought of this topic, though I know this has been on my mind since a few months back when I notice that I’m beginning to neglect my friends…
“Life is tough… so you’re either ‘up’ or you’re ‘out’!”
How true is this and how applicable it is to my life right now. I’m constantly complaining about my job. There’s nothing interesting I can blog about. My mind is always blank when I try to construct creatively. I’m not trying hard enough to show my love for people I love… to my family and my friends. I tried to blame it on my job… but really, it’s innocent. It’s me. I’ve lost passion for things I used to be passionate for. I’m trying to change things by trying for a baby and my job, but I admit I get lazy after long hours of work…
See? I link lots of complains to my job…
(Think I need professional help?)
I just got an appointment with a manager from the company HR for a casual chat. This ‘casual chat’ is probably related to a large number of my ex-colleagues who’d moved to their new roles after the merge (like I did) and quit. The growing pattern is becoming a big concern for management and they’re probably trying to understand from peeps who moved over about their job satisfaction and the root of the high turnover rate. What is all these to me? A probable reason for my current distorted work-life balance and this gradual change to my behavior…
An excuse… not. A concern to consider… definitely.
(I think I need more of a headhunter’s help then…)
What do you think? I know I’ve been told by a dear friend that I should take action and move my ass to a new job… I know this is defnitely the right move for me, but my stubborn nature that refuse to let me admit that ‘I give up’ on the tough role.
“A Bad Dream” Why do I have to fly
Over every town up and down the line?
I’ll die in the clouds above
And you that I defend, I do not loveI wake up, it’s a bad dream
No one on my side
I was fighting
But I just feel too tired
To be fighting
Guess I’m not the fighting kindWhere will I meet my fate?
Baby I’m a man, I was born to hate
And when will I meet my end?
In a better time you could be my friendI wake up, it’s a bad dream
No one on my side
I was fighting
But I just feel too tired
To be fighting
Guess I’m not the fighting kind
Wouldn’t mind it
If you were by my side
But you’re long gone
Yeah you’re long gone nowWhere do we go?
I don’t even know
My strange old face
And I’m thinking about those days
And I’m thinking about those daysI wake up, it’s a bad dream
No one on my side
I was fighting
But I just feel too tired
To be fighting
Guess I’m not the fighting kind
Wouldn’t mind it
If you were by my side
But you’re long gone
Yeah you’re long gone now
March 10 2007 08:03 pm | deep
March 14th, 2007 at 3:16 pm
Bro, to be honest with you, and as the old saying goes, do what you think is right for you. We will support your decision in whatever you wanna do. But the most important thing is the thing you do, you must do it for yourself, something that will make you feel happy.
March 14th, 2007 at 3:48 pm
I know how you feel. We are in the same boat. I hate the current management & I’m already sick of my job. Journey too & from work is wearing me down to a point that I have no more energy left for any other things. I used to love shopping & clubbing is something I think of as a destressing tool. Both are out of my routine. Why? Too tired. I have this strong passion for Japanese animation for the longest time & recently, the passion for it is also slowly dying.
I believe it’s the job & it’s the same for you. Work takes up most of your time so when you are feeling frustrated most of the days, you will not hv the mood to do other things at the end of the day but go into hibernating mode. If you can get a better job, move on. Don’t let work kills you.
Good luck on your job hunting. As for me, no luck la so the work is still killing me.
March 15th, 2007 at 5:45 pm
I’ve a love/hate relationship with my job…
Some days, I love it because it opens up unpredictable challenges that makes work more interesting and leaves a great sense of achievement…
... but hates it when expectations are ‘promised’ on our behalf without any assessment of departmental capability.
Simply put, I love the job, not the company.
(There’s seriously something wrong with this company… All my ex-colleagues have left the company).
March 16th, 2007 at 8:46 am
See! I told you we are in the same boat. I don’t really hate my job. Neither do I love it but what I hate the most is the management. They are really taking full advantage of me by paying me under market rate & the fact that I’ve been working for them for 11 years, they should pay me a little more. 11 years & no promotion before.
Same as your company, the management is always saying yes yes yes to the clients like a freaking dog. It’s gd to give freebies but I think they are overdoing it.
I can go on & on about this la.. Aiyah you know what I mean la. Still my suggestion is, look for a similar job & tell your present company to “f” spider.
March 17th, 2007 at 11:09 am
I understand what you mean, Jez…
But thing is… I’m also aware that the other big companies doing the same thing as the company I work for are not that different. In this corporate ladder game, it’s either you make it or you don’t. It never pays to be the good guy in the business world.
So what that leaves us? Either hang on and be a bad guy… or start your own company and expect less.
March 19th, 2007 at 3:46 pm
Another word means LL la.
April 5th, 2007 at 10:33 am
Bro, your reluctance to move on is because you do not want to move out from your “Comfort Zone”. A constant pay, familiar faces (colleagues) and places. Venturing into a new place (new face, new system, everything new) and you will not feel too comfortable as you need time to adjust to the new environment.
You can look at the situation and find a few ways:-
1. Find a new job = that means looking at things differently, getting a fresh start, and that might put you into a very good position as you need a break, or a fresh start on things.
2. Start your own = Yup, be your own boss! But be sure to expect a lot of difficulties since its not easy. You can go on for months without income and you have to do everything, that means sales, admin job, paperwork, and I do mean EVERYTHING at the beginning until you can afford to hire someone. But look at it this way: if done right, the reward is great and the possibilities are almost unlimited.
3. Stay put = continue doing what you are doing, and hope that one day you can get a big break. But let’s not put too much hope into this basket.