Anything You Want…
June 23rd, 2008 -- Posted in rants | 3 Comments »Some girls hate it. Some love it. It depends on your capacity to meet up to the ‘anything’ she has in mind. In my case, it’s plain ‘I-hate-to-pick-the-wrong-answer’ anything…
From experiences with the 4 (or was it 5?) ex-girlfriends and finally now my wife, deciding on an answer to a simple “What shall we do tonight?” has always been mixed with several layers of sublimal trick questions. After a bit, one will realize it takes some screening through a multi-layered checklist before you’d want to answer anything.
... Did you forget what you promised her before?
... Is it an important date tonight?
... An ex-pet death anniversary?
... Am I forgetting what she hates?
... Will it be too selfish to do what I want?
... Is that a test or an offer for my choice?
“Anything you want…” was always the easiest answer, but there can be negative implications:
1. You’re too lazy to think. You don’t care.
2. You may end up spending more than you thought.
3. You’re ignorant of new happening places. You have no life. You’re boring.
So I stopped with the ‘anything’ answer. Over the years of courtship and dating phase, I did some homework to avoid being stuck with not knowing where to bring a date. Sometimes an idea can be repeated with a little new twist, like ‘I heard there’s a carnival there’ freshies. It worked out fine.
After marriage, things started to take a different turn. There’s no more excuse. You’d soon run dry of idea. More effort is needed to spice up the life of facing the same face everyday. From “Let’s go to the same old places again”, it will gradually move to “Anywhere is fine, as long as it’s with you…” and then to my current spot… asking her “Where do you feel like going tonight?” before she asks.
I kid you…
Seriously, it’d come to a stage when she’d understand you’re just being human and can’t always come up with Casanova ideas all the time. In time to come, she will know the meaning of ‘reasonable’ and will even suggest something for you. In my case, I do mean it when I say ‘Anything you want’... I just want her to get what she wants. I’ve never refused any reasonable proposal.
It gives me a better bargaining power after she gets what she wants. Heehee…
